We create our life

Always wait for something good and it happens, because whatsoever happens, we create. In fact we create it; we sow the seeds. But we sow the seeds unconsciously, that's why we think that some accident has happened. Accidents never happen, nothing is ever accidental. It is a cosmos, it is not a chaos. Everything is absolutely based on a fundamental ultimate law: nothing ever goes wrong. Yes, sometimes it looks to us as if it has gone wrong, because we were expecting something else. That’s a problem --we do one thing, we sow one seed and we expect something else.

We sow the seeds of one kind of flower and we expect some other kind of flower, so when the flowers come we are frustrated. But flowers come through the seeds, not our wishes. So remember: We constantly create our world. There are people who are constantly afraid that something wrong is going to happen, and then it happens! And when it happens, they are proved right. They have made it happen. People who are afraid will always find situations in which fear grips them. People who are loving will always find situations where love blooms.

Because this existence goes on giving you that which you project. Life is our project. We are our life's creators. God has created man, but as freedom. So there is an essential freedom inside; now it is up to you to choose what you would like to happen to you in life and then you will see that it starts happening. One thing is linked with another, one thing leads to another, and slowly you have taken a certain route; then all other alternatives are dropped. When a child is born, all the alternatives are open; he is utterly free.

He can be a musician, poet, wrestler, a politician, he can be anything an Adolf Hitler, a Gautama Buddha; anything is possible But sooner or later choices start coming and he starts moving in a certain direction. Then that direction remains his world. So always remember: whatsoever has happened to you, you have been the cause of it. Sometimes it hurts that you are the cause of all the misery that has happened to you; you feel sad But there is no need to feel sad, because through it, you come to an understanding, and then things need not happen the same way again to you.

And the second thing to remember is: For every hurt or happiness always feel thankful, because sometimes pain is needed for growth and pleasure is not needed. So whatsoever happens, make it an opportunity to grow. Use that opportunity as a springboard for something higher. A friend dies, there is pain, there is anguish and misery, but use that opportunity. Meditate on death. Your friend's death has reminded you of a very significant phenomenon that death is there. Don't arrange your life without taking note of death.

Maybe existence has given you a message to get ready: the friend is gone, you will be gone one day, so prepare for death! Life is a small affair; a seventy-year affair in which one-third will be gone in sleep, another one-third will be gone in earning bread and butter, another one-third in other stupidities. Nothing much is left! It is not a big thing, it is a very small phenomenon; compared to death it is nothing Death is eternity.

સફળતા મેળવવાનાં ૧૦ પગથિયાં

From DivyaBhaskar;

સફળ થવા માટે નક્કી કરેલા ધ્યેયને હાંસલ કરવા માટે ખૂબ બધી પોઝિટિવ વાતો થાય છે. પરંતુ એ માટે ખરેખર કેવાં નક્કર પગલાં લેવા જોઇએ એની વાત ભાગ્યે જ થાય છે. નવા દાયકાના પહેલા અઠવાડિયે પેશ છે સફળતા મેળવવાના દસ દમદાર પગથિયાં...

એકવીસમી સદીનો બીજો દાયકો વિશાળ તકો લઇને આવ્યો છે. આ દાયકામાં ભારત વિશ્વનું સૌથી યુવાન રાષ્ટ્ર બનવાનું છે અથૉત્ યુવાનોની સંખ્યા ભારતમાં સૌથી વધુ રહેવાની છે. વિકાસની ગાડી પાટે ચઢી ગઇ છે અને હવે પુરપાટ દોડવા તૈયાર છે. તમે જો સજ્જ નહીં હો તો આ ગાડી તમારી રાહ જોઇને થોભવાની નથી. કેવી સજ્જતા જોઇશે આ નવા દાયકામાં સફળ થવા માટે? નવી વિચારધારામાં ફીટ થવા માટે? નવી મેનેજમેન્ટ થિયરીઓને અનુસરવા માટે? હજારો વર્ષમાં વિશ્વએ એકઠા કરેલા ડહાપણના સમુદ્રમાંથી મોતી જેવા બાર ગુણ અહીં પસંદ કર્યા છે, યાદી બાવીસ, બેંતાલીસ કે બોંતેર સુધીયે લંબાવી શકાય તેમ છે, પણ થોડામાં ઘણું સમજો ડિયર વાચક.

લક્ષ્ય

પ્રત્યેક મનુષ્યને પોતાનું લક્ષ્ય સિદ્ધ કરવાની શક્તિ ઈશ્વરે આપેલી જ છે.- ભગવાન બુદ્ધ

લક્ષ્ય, ધ્યેય, ટાર્ગેટ. ગળાકાપ અને ટાંટિયાખેંચ સ્પર્ધાના આ જમાનામાં લક્ષ્ય નક્કી કરવા જેટલું મહત્વનું બીજું કશું જ નથી. તમે શું પ્રાપ્ત કરવા માગો છો, તમારો ગોલ શું છે તે સ્પષ્ટ કરી લેવું જરૂરી છે. ધ્યેય સ્પષ્ટ હશે તો જ આગળની મુસાફરી શક્ય બનશે. ભગવાન બુદ્ધે કહ્યું છે, ઈશ્વરે દરેકને પોતાનું લક્ષ્ય સિદ્ધ કરવાની શક્તિ આપી જ છે. લક્ષ્ય ક્યારેય અશક્ય હોતું નથી, તેને અશક્ય બનાવે છે આપણી ઇચ્છા અથવા આપણી જાતનું ઓછું આકલન. ઊઠો, જાગો અને ધ્યેય પ્રાપ્તિ સુધી મંડ્યા રહો એવું કહેનાર સ્વામી વિવેકાનંદે પોતાના જીવનનું લક્ષ્ય કિશોરાવસ્થામાં જ નક્કી કરી લીધું હતું અને યુવાનીમાં તે પ્રાપ્ત પણ કરી લીધું હતું. આજે ૩૯ વર્ષની ઉંમરે કેટલાય લોકો પોતાનું ધ્યેય નક્કી કરી શક્યા હોતા નથી, એ ઉંમરે તો સ્વામીજીએ આ લોકને છોડી દીધો હતો. સેટ યોર ગોલ, નાઉ.

આયોજન

નસીબનાં દ્વાર ત્યારે ઉઘડે છે જ્યારે માણસ પ્લાનિંગ સાથે, આયોજનબદ્ધ રીતે ઉધ્યમ કરે. શાકુંતલમાં કહેવાયું છે, નસીબનાં દ્વાર તો સર્વત્ર હોય છે. પણ, આ દ્વાર સુધી પહોંચવા માટે, તેને ઉઘાડવા માટે આયોજન જરૂરી છે.તમારું ધ્યેય નક્કી કર્યા પછી તે ધ્યેય સુધી પહોંચવાનું આયોજન જરૂરી છે. એન્ટની ડી’ સેન્ટે કહ્યું છે, ‘આયોજન વગરનું પ્લાનિંગ એક આશા માત્ર છે.’ પીટર ડ્રકરે પણ એવું જ કહ્યું છે, ‘આયોજનને ઝડપથી અમલમાં ન મૂકવામાં આવે તો તે માત્ર એક સારો ઉદ્દેશ બનીને રહી જાય છે.’ પ્લાન પરફેક્ટ હોવો જોઇએ એવું કહેવાય છે પણ, હકીકતમાં કોઇ પ્લાનિંગ ફુલપ્રૂફ હોતું નથી. ખરાબ પ્લાનિંગ જ એકમાત્ર એવી ચીજ છે, જેને બદલી શકાય નહીં. સારા પ્લાનિંગમાં સતત સુધારા-વધારા આવશ્યક અને આવકાર્ય હોય છે. આપણે આપણાં એંસી ટકા કામ એવાં કરીએ છીએ જે લક્ષ્યની સિદ્ધિ તરફ લઇ જતાં નથી. સો, પ્લાન યોર સેલ્ફ.

થિંક બિગ

થિંક બિગ. આજના જમાનામાં સફળતાનો આ મૂળ મંત્ર છે. હિતોપદેશમાં કહેવાયું છે, ‘જે સમર્થ છે, તેના માટે કોઇ લક્ષ્ય મોટું નથી. જેને ધંધો કરવો છે, તેના માટે કોઇ સ્થળ દૂર નથી.’ કલાઉડ બિસ્ટ્રોલે કહ્યું છે, ‘મોટા બનવા માટે મોટું વિચારવું પડે.’ તમારી સફળતાની સાઇઝ તમારા વિચારને અનુરૂપ હશે. નાનું વિચારીને ક્યારેય મોટી સફળતા મળી શકતી નથી. પ્રખ્યાત ટીવી હોસ્ટ ઓપ્રાહ વિન્ફ્રેએ કહ્યું હતું, ‘સફળતાની સંભાવનાઓનાં દ્વાર ખોલવા માટે મોટું અને અલગ વિચારવું પડે.’ મોટું વિચારનાર પ્રજા મહાન બને છે. સફળ માણસ કે સફળ પ્રજાની સફળતા પાછળ તેનું બિગ થિંકિંગ પડેલું હોય છે. મોટું વિચારનાર આઉટ ઓફ ધી બોક્સ વિચારી શકે. બીજાથી અલગ વિચારી શકે, પરંપરાને તોડી શકે. સો, થિંક બિગ, થિંક ડિફરન્ટ, થિંક લાઇક અ વિનર.

આળસ ત્યજો

આલસ્ય મહા બલમ્ એવું કહેવાય છે. ચાણકયએ કહ્યું છે, ‘આળસુ વ્યક્તિ પોતાને મળેલી વસ્તુની પણ રક્ષા કરી શકતો નથી.’ માણસ હંમેશાં કમ્ફર્ટ ઝોનમાં રહેવાનું પસંદ કરે છે. તેમાંથી બહાર આવવાનું મુશ્કેલ છે, અશક્ય નથી. આળસ અને આજનું કામ કાલે કરવાની ઠેલણવૃત્તિ સફળતાનો સૌથી મોટો શત્રુ છે. ‘કલ કરે સો આજ કર, આજ કરે સો અભી’ એવું સૂત્ર આપણે ગોખી લીધું છે પણ તેનો અમલ કરવામાં આળસ કરતા રહીએ છીએ. સફળતા મેળવવી હોય તો રાત-દિવસ જોયા વગર મંડી પડવું પડે. સફળ વ્યક્તિ કરોડો કમાયા પછી પણ પગ વાળીને બેસતો નથી કારણકે આળસ તેમના સ્વભાવમાં હોતી નથી. એટલે, સ્વભાવ એવો કેળવો જે આળસવિહીન હોય. સો, કમ આઉટ ઓફ કમ્ફર્ટ ઝોન.

રિલેશનશીપ

‘મને મિત્રોથી ભય ન રહે, મને શત્રુઓથી ભય ન રહે.’ અદભૂત વાક્ય છે આ અથર્વવેદનું. શત્રુઓથી ભય ન રહે એવું વરદાન તો સામાન્ય છે, મિત્રોથી ભય ન રહે એવું કહેવું તે અસામાન્ય છે. નવા યુગના મેનેજમેન્ટમાં રિલેશનશીપ સૌથી વધુ મહત્વની બાબત છે. તમારા સાથી કર્મચારીઓ અને તમારી નીચેના કર્મચારીઓ સાથેની રિલેશનશીપ, તમારા કલાયન્ટ્સ અને તમારા વેન્ડર્સ સાથેની રિલેશનશીપ અને ગ્રાહકો સાથેની રિલેશનશીપ ધંધામાં પ્રગતિ માટે અનિવાર્ય પરિબળ છે. સંબંધો પર દુનિયા ટકેલી છે એ વાક્ય અત્યારે કદાચ સૌથી વધુ રિલેવન્ટ છે. પછી તે સંબંધો સામાજિક હોય કે વ્યાવસાયિક. એટલે, ડેવલપ ગુડ રિલેશનશીપ.

હાર્ડવર્ક

સિંહ સામર્થ્યમાં અતુલ્ય છે. છતાં સૂતેલા સિંહના મુખમાં હરણાં આપોઆપ પ્રવેશી જતાં નથી, સિંહે પણ શિકાર માટે ઉધ્યમ કરવો પડે છે. માત્ર મનના ઘોડા ઘડવાથી કાર્ય પૂરા થતાં નથી, તેના માટે હાર્ડવર્ક જરૂરી છે. જે માણસ પોતાનું કામ નિષ્ઠાથી કરતો નથી તે નસીબને દોષ દે છે. ‘મર્દ કા નસીબ ઉન કે હાથોં કી લકીરોં મેં નહીં, ઉનકી બાહુઓ મેં હોતા હૈ’ એવો ફિલ્મી ડાયલોગ પણ સુભાષિતથી કમ નથી. કોઇ વ્યક્તિ તમારી નિંદા કરીને તમારું નામ બગાડી શકે પણ, તમારું કામ બગાડી શકતો નથી. તમારું કામ એક જ વ્યક્તિ બગાડી શકે, અને એ છે, તમે પોતે. તમે મહેનત કરો, પુરુષાર્થ કરો તો કોઇ કામ અશક્ય નથી. હોમરે કહ્યું છે, ‘પુરુષાર્થ બધી બાબતો પર વિજય મેળવી શકે છે’. ઐતરેય બ્રાહ્નણમાં લખાયેલું સુભાષિત છે: ‘સૂતેલાનું ભાગ્ય સૂતું રહે છે, જે ચાલતો રહે છે તેનું ભાગ્ય ગતિશીલ રહે છે’. સો, બિગિન હાર્ડવર્ક ટુવર્ડ્સ યોર ગોલ.

ડિસિઝન

કુમાર સંભવમાં કાલીદાસે કહ્યું છે, જે દ્રઢ નિર્ણય કરે છે તેના મનને અને ઢાળ તરફ વહેતા પાણીને કોણ રોકી શકે? નિર્ણય લેવાની કળા, ડિસિઝન મેકિંગ કોઇપણ વ્યવસાયની સફળતા માટે સૌથી મહત્વપૂર્ણ છે. એક ખોટો નિર્ણય, એક મોડો નિર્ણય ધંધાની, નોકરીની દિશા બદલી નાખી શકે. નિર્ણય મોડો કે વહેલો નહીં, યોગ્ય સમયે લેવાય તે જરૂરી છે. ભવિષ્યની તકોનું આકલન કરીને, વર્તમાન પરિસ્થિતિનું ગણિત માંડીને લેવાયેલો પરપિકવ નિર્ણય જ લાભકારી નિવડે છે. માણસે જીવનમાં, ધંધામાં, નોકરીમાં વારંવાર નિર્ણયો લેવા પડે છે અને તે નિર્ણયો તેની સફળતા નક્કી કરતા હોય છે. શતરંજની રમતમાં જેમ વિવિધ પાસાં વિચાર્યા પછી સૌથી સારી ચાલ ચાલવાની હોય તે જ રીતે નિર્ણયો લેવાની પ્રક્રિયા થવી જોઇએ. નાઉ, મેક ડિસિઝન્સ, પ્રોપર્લી એન્ડ ફાસ્ટ.

નબળાઇઓને જાણો, નિવારો

પોતાની નબળાઇઓની જાણ બીજાને ન કરવી એવું ચાણકયએ કહ્યું છે. પણ, તે પહેલાં પોતાની નબળાઇઓ જાણવી જરૂરી છે. પોતાના ધંધાની નબળી કડીઓ જાણવી જરૂરી છે. આ જમાનામાં નબળાઇઓને છુપાવી શકાય એવું રહ્યું નથી એટલે, ચાણકયથી થોડું આગળ વધીને એવું કહેવું પડે કે પોતાની નબળાઇઓને છુપાવવાને બદલે સુધારો. જે માણસ પોતાની નબળાઇઓને જોઇ શકતો નથી તે સફળ થતો નથી. ધંધામાં કે વ્યક્તિગત જીવનમાં, નબળાઇઓ શોધતા આપણે ડરીએ છીએ. પણ, એ પલાયનવૃત્તિ છે. પોતાની નબળાઇઓ સફળતા સામે જોખમ બનીને ઊભી રહે તેના કરતાં તો તેને ઓળખીને દૂર કરવી વધુ યોગ્ય છે. લેટ્સ, હેવ અ લૂક વિધિન.

નેવર ગિવ અપ

વિન્સ્ટન ચર્ચિલ એક શાળામાં ભાષણ કરવા ગયા ત્યારે બધાને હતું કે તેઓ રાજકીય વાતો કરશે અને બાળકોને કશું સમજાશે નહીં. ચર્ચિલે તે સભામાં કહ્યું, નેવર ગિવ અપ. નેવર નેવર નેવર. અને આ સભાને આજ દિવસ સુધી યાદ રાખવામાં આવે છે. નીતિ શતકમાં ભર્તુહરિએ લખ્યું છે, ઉત્તમ પુરુષો આરંભેલા કાર્યને ક્યારેય છોડતા નથી. પડકારો આવે, ક્યારેક પીછેહઠ કરવી પડે એવું જીવનમાં વારંવાર બનશે. પણ, પોતાનું ધ્યેય ન છોડવું. મોટાભાગે એવું બને છે કે નાનકડી પછડાટ, નાનકડી પીછેહઠ, નાનકડો પરાજય મળતાં જ માણસ હતોત્સાહ થઇને કામ છોડી દે છે. જે આવા વિપરિત સંજોગોમાં પણ કામ છોડતા નથી તેઓ સફળ માણસોની યાદીમાં બિરાજે છે. સો, નેવર ગિવ અપ, નેવર નેવર નેવર.

બી એનજેઁટિક

નિરુત્સાહથી માણસનું જ નહીં, તેના ભાગ્યનું પણ પતન થાય છે. ઉત્સાહથી ભરપુર, એનજેઁટિક માણસ પોતાની આજુબાજુના વાતાવરણને પ્રફુલ્લિત કરી દે છે. કોઇપણ કામ ઉત્સાહથી કરવામાં આવે તો તેનું પરિણામ અદભૂત મળે છે. વર્કપ્લેસ ઉત્સાહથી થિરક્તી હોય એવું વાતાવરણ દરેક કંપની ઇચ્છતી હોય, દરેક અધિકારી ઇચ્છતો હોય. ઉત્સાહ માટે અનેક પરિબળો જરૂરી છે. સારું વળતર, સારી રિલેશનશીપ, સારી સંભાળ, સારું વાતાવરણ, સારી પ્રસંશા વગેરે વગેરે. પણ, વાસ્તવમાં ઉત્સાહ માણસના મનમાંથી જન્મે છે. કામ પ્રત્યે જેને પ્રેમ હોય એ ગમે તેવા વાતાવરણમાં ઉત્સાહથી કામ કરતો રહે છે. એટલે જ, કોઇપણ ઓફિસમાં એવા એક-બે જ માણસ હોય છે, જે ઉત્સાહથી થનગનતા હોય છે. સો, બી એનજેઁટિક, ફ્યુચર ઇઝ વેઇટિંગ ફોર યુ.

૧-સેટ યોર ગોલ નાઉ. ધ્યેય સ્પષ્ટ હશે તો જ આગળની મુસાફરી શક્ય બનશે.

૨-પ્લાન યોર સેલ્ફ. ધ્યેય નક્કી કર્યા પછી ત્યાં પહોંચવાનું આયોજન જરૂરી છે.

૩-થિંક બિગ, થિંક ડિફરન્ટ, થિંક લાઇક અ વિનર. બીજાથી અલગ વિચારો.

૪-કમ આઉટ ઓફ કમ્ફર્ટ ઝોન. સ્વભાવ એવો કેળવો જે આળસવિહીન હોય.

૫-ડેવલપ ગુડ રિલેશનશીપ. સંબંધો પર દુનિયા ટકેલી છે.

૬-બિગિન હાર્ડવર્ક ટુવર્ડ્સ યોર ગોલ. તમે પુરુષાર્થ કરો તો કંઇ અશક્ય નથી.

૭-મેક ડિસિઝન્સ, પ્રોપર્લી એન્ડ ફાસ્ટ. નિર્ણય યોગ્ય સમયે લેવાય તે જરૂરી છે.

૮-હેવ અ લૂક વિધિન. પોતાની નબળાઇઓ છુપાવવાને બદલે સુધારો.

૯-નેવર ગિવ અપ, નેવર. ભલે ક્યારેક પીછેહઠ કરવી પડે પણ ધ્યેય ન છોડવું.

૧૦-બી એનજેઁટિક. ફ્યુચર ઇઝ વેઇટિંગ ફોર યુ.

Charge your BRAIN

Have you ever felt exasperated when you bumped into someone at the store but absolutely couldn’t remember their name? Sure, it happens to all of us.

Despite being the strongest computer on the planet, our brains do lapse. It’s hard to blame them really. As humans, we spend much of or existence stuffing our brains withstuff. Some stuff is worthless, some of it’s meaningful, some of it, well, it’s just stuff and there is an endless amount of it.

No matter how powerful our brains are, they need recuperation time, to be kept in shape, and even an occasional charge. Think of it as a tune up for your brain. Skipping brain maintenance is as silly as the person wandering the parking garage because they forgot where they parked. Is that you? Are you that person? Sure. We all are at some point. No worries, there is hope.

Now I am not a brain surgeon and I am not going to suggest you do anything surgical or dangerous. I am however an astute student of human behavior, so I always look for simple ways tosuper charge my brain.

Here are some things you can begin doing as soon as today to begin the great brain tune up.

1. Eat Almonds
Almond is believed to improve memory. If a combination of almond oil and milk is taken together before going to bed or after getting up at morning, it strengthens our memory power. Almond milk is prepared by crushing the almonds without the outer cover and adding water and sugar to it.

2. Drink Apple Juice
Research from the University of Massachusetts Lowell (UML) indicates that apple juice increases the production of the essential neurotransmitter acetylcholine in the brain, resulting in an increasedmemory power.

3. Sleep well
Research indicates that the long-term memory is consolidated during sleep by replaying the images of the experiences of the day. These repeated playbacks program the subconscious mind to store these images and other related information.

4. Enjoy simple Pleasures
Stress drains our brainpower. A stress-ridden mind consumes much of our memory resources to leave us with a feeble mind. Make a habit to engage yourself in few simple pleasures everyday to dissolve stress from your mind. Some of these simple pleasures are good for your mind, body and soul.

• Enjoy music you love
• Play with your children
• Hug a stranger
• Appreciate others
• Run few miles a day, bike or swim
• Start a blog
• Take a yoga class or Total wellness routine

5. Fast for a day
Fasting cleans and detoxifies our body. It is known fact that heavy food not only causes stress on our digestive system but also drains our brainpower. Fasting relieves toxic emotions such as anger, grief, worry, and fears – before they accumulate and cause disease. By cleansing toxic emotions, fasting strengthens metal clarity with increases memory, concentration, creativity and insight.

6. Exercise your mind
Just as physical exercise is essential for a strong body, mental exercise is equally essential for a sharp and agile mind. Have you noticed that children have far superior brainpower than an adult does? Children have playful minds. A playful mind exhibits superiormemory power. Engage in some of the activities that require your mind to remain active and playful.

• Play scrabble or crossword puzzle
• Volunteer
• Interact with others
• Start a new hobby such as blogging, reading, painting, bird watching
• Learn new skill or a language

7. Practice Yoga or Meditation
Yoga or Meditation relives stress. Stress is a known memory buster. With less stress, lower blood pressure, slower respiration, slower metabolism, and released muscle tension follows. All of these factors contribute significantly towards increases in our brainpower.

8. Reduce Sugar intake
Sugar is a non-food. It’s a form of carbohydrate that offers illusionary energy, only to cause a downhill slump once the initial burst has been worn off. Excess intake of sugar results in neurotic symptoms. Excess sugar is known to cause claustrophobia, memory loss and other neurotic disorders. Eat food without adding sugar. Stay away from sweet drinks or excess consumption of caffeine with sugar.

9. Eat whole wheat
The whole wheat germs contain lecithin. Lecithin helps ease the problem of the hardening of the arteries, which often impairs brain functioning.

10. Eat a light meal in the night
A heavy meal at night causes tossing and turning and a prolonged emotional stress while at sleep. It’s wise to eat heavy meal during the day when our body is in motion to consume the heavy in-take. Eating a light meal with some fruits allows us to sleep well. A good night sleep strengthens our brainpower.

11. Develop imagination
Greeks mastered the principle of imagination and association to memorize everything. This technique requires one to develop a vivid and colorful imagination that can be linked to a known object. If you involve all your senses – touching, feeling, smelling, hearing and seeing in the imagination process, you can remember greater details of the event.

12. Sex
Our sexual imagination often empowers our ability to daydream, which strengthens our brainpower with greater imagination, visualization and association.

13. Control your temper
Bleached food, excess of starch or excess of white bread can lead to nerve grating effect. This results in a violent and some time depressive behavior. Eat fresh vegetables. Drink lots of water and meditate or practice yoga to relieve these toxic emotions of temper and violent mood swings.

14. Take Vitamin B-complex
Vitamin B-complex strengthens memory power. Eat food and vegetables high in Vitamin B-complex. Stay away from the starch food or white bread, which depletes the Vitamin B-complex necessary for a healthy mind.

Ideas from my past experience

Ideas
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Technical

- Create reusable kind of components, scripts, functions
- Create group wise ids (like php@sitename.com if used then it will send an email to all the php team and its related members and similarly if everyone@ is selected then it should send email to all the employees)
- have coding standards
- have framework
- Have backup plans (at least weekly)
- suggest the latest version of softwares
- Create components and register them in software download sites like softpedia, download.com etc with a fixed price in it. For this purpose we have to make the application installable and fully customizable in terms of design. We can also provide templates for the same with a fixed nominal price so that user is encouraged to purchase it instead of doing design on own.

- Keep strict discipline, manner, less arguments
- Always be ready to help / solve queries
- Spend at least fruitfull half an hour on knowledge upgradation in beneficial manner to the organization
- Spend an hour at home for the knowledge upgradation in beneficial manner to the organization
- Provide at least minimum 9 hours in the office


- Once any project is started give at least half an hour a day with the team

- Keep an excel file with project name, assigned team member name with their responsiblity in it and in the last add feedback for each

- Once in a week share your ideas and knowledge with team by email

- Do your job first not others

- Reach early in the office

- Spend 15 minutes in the office and visualize your self in action and initiatives

- Never ever show a way to any team member on how you are doing the things and do not teach them.

- Also do not show any one a vision to reach to your level

- Down the line after each 2 months, seek for new responsibilities and for the same, represent your ideas in a good PRESENTABLE manner because your presentation is a must and creates value for confirmation

- Suggest to not to have any un-watned software in any of system. If they agreed then follow it strictly. It will help all the team members to run their system much much faster

- Based on experience (it is strange but needed), make sure that peoples are not becoming independent without you. If they are becoming independent then make them dependent on you. Like software which you use if they have mastered then remove it from their system by saying that it has a vulnerability or licence issue

- Passion, commitment and a positive attitude always gets noticed at the workplace.

- On each alternate weekend day, spare half an hour or an hour with team members to lighten up the moments / memories which they will remember for a long

- In meeting, always sit in a posotion where you can see all the possible places/faces of other members

- When talking to your seniors, always keep your voice lower (enough to understand and listen) and humble.

- always keep a record of mistaked done by other team members\

- Do not be GOOD / NICE guy. Think smart and act accordingly. If someone is doing a mistake then inform him (at each second time) and do not do any verbal settlement with him

- Be practical and open. Do not suffer injustice and come in fault just to save other. In such situation, raise your voice politely.

- If you are a leader/head then make sure that everything goes well and you are receiving its acknowledgement. ex., if directors are getting in contact with them or inquiries are sent to them then request other person to send you first and then you will do needful

- If you are a sensitive person by nature, try not to show it in front of colleagues. Emotions do have a place in the work space but you have to learn where which emotion should be used, Showing your vulnerability in a personal relationship might bring you closer to your partner> But as far as the workplace is concerned, it might backfire on you,

- Write down your thoughts. It will help you deal with behavioural issues better.

- Set weekly goals and try to reach them. This is help to give your life a sense of purpose.

- Don't make your career the be all and end all of your existence. Growing in other spheres of your life can also boost confidence levels. Don't abandon your hobbies either.

- Your body language while talking to people is also important. There's nothing to get nervous about. "Look into the eyes of the person you are speaking to," says Shetty.

- You should learn to see the humour in a situation as well as be able to laugh at yourself.

- REMEMBER: If company is going to earn then only it will pay / raise your pay. So do all the best which you can do for the growth. Never compromize anything. If you need to scold any one (in private or public) do that but never ever comporomise with the progress of company

- Never bee to gentle that people get benefit of you (instead of company get benefit of you)

- Never let go any mistake more than 3 times, when it is done 3rd time, raise it to the attention of superior

- Be polite, but no need to be humble.
- Be & act confident.
- Be genuine, and not smart.
- Watch reactions. Get feedback .

- Always make an impression that you are only working

- Be such a solid concrete that no one can clith you

- Give more and more time in analysis. Give full list of suggestion, understanding and its limitations

- Share written appreciation for the efforts of team

- Do paper work before you start on a project. Discuss the scope with all the team members how are included in it. Get their ideas and clear understanding. Make sure that no one gets override you in presence of your senior

- In case of your absense, do not make any one person to handle the entire situation. Instead divide it among all the team members so that no one will feel that he is same as you.

- Regardless of what you want to be successful at, it's virtually
certain that you will need to be able to get up and speak in front
of others AND have excellent presentation skills. I've never known
a super-successful person who was not an excellent presenter. After
all, in order to be super-successful at anything its going to
require effective communication of your ideas to other people.

- The project manager is the one on the hook for both deadlines and for the quality of deliverables, It is a failure of the project management process to allow any situation to get to a point where incomplete or poorly completed work is delivered simply to meet a deadline. There is no excuse for things getting to that point.

- Keep your team informed about the project plan, its detail and feedback

- Take a frequent review of hours spent on project.

- Push teams everyday on the overall progress and status like how much is done and how much is pending?

- Get a detailed status at the end of every weekend day and share it with client

- Keep each team member all the reposibilities as per their designation like junior should ask for their query to senior and then to TL or PM. No direct contact. Hence it will create an understanding and atmosphere for senior and junior about their responsibilities.

- When any projects comes to end and client conveys same then share positive thoughts with entire team and ask for same moral support from them

- While uploading anything on the server, please make sure to remove each and ever occurance of personal or company's identity. If needed to do temporary setup then do it on the server by renaming existing folder

- Keep watch on those who disturbs you

- Prepare test papers as per inquiries

- If client is taking too long on daily basis then take action and correct it. Similar way if team is taking unexpected of my time then take action and correct it.

- Utilize resource in best way. Keep track of their given assignment and their achievements as well as their failure too.

Take charge of your career destiny - Azim Premji

The funny thing about life is that you realise the value of something only when it begins to leave you. As my hair turned from black, to salt and pepper and finally salt without the pepper, I have begun to realise the enthusiasm and excitement of youth. At the same time, I have begun to truly appreciate some of the lessons I have learnt along the way. As you embark on your careers, I would like to share them with you. I am hoping that you will find them as useful as I have.

The world you are entering is in many ways very different now from what it was when I began my career. It was the late sixties and India [ depended on other countries for something as basic as food. We aroused sympathy, not admiration whenever we went overseas. Recently, someone told me, that when visitors came to India then, they came to see what they could do for India. Now, they come to see what India can do for them. As a hopeful Indian, I look at our country as one which is rich in ethnic and cultural diversity and one that has an effective, secular democracy which will help us build an enduring society.

Lesson 1: Take charge
This was the first thought that came to me, when over four decades ago, I stepped into Wipro factory at Amalner. I was 21 and had spent the last few years in Stanford University Engineering School at California. Many people advised me to take up a nice, cushy job rather than face the challenges of running a hydrogenated oil business. Looking back, I am glad I decided to take charge instead. Essentially, leadership begins from within. It is a small voice that tells you where to go when you feel lost. If you believe in that voice, you believe in yourself. When it comes to choosing your careers, you have to take charge of your own destiny.

Lesson 2: Earn your happiness
The second lesson I have learnt is that a rupee earned is of far more value than five found. In fact, what is gifted or inherited follows the old rule of come easy, go easy. I guess we only know the value of what we have if we have struggled to earn it.

Lesson 3: Nothing succeeds like failure
The third lesson I have learnt is no one bats a hundred every time. Life has many challenges. You win some and lose some. You must enjoy winning. But do not let it go to the head. The moment it does, you are already on your way to failure. And if you do encounter failure along the way, treat it as an equally natural phenomenon. The important thing is, when you lose, do not lose the lesson.

Lesson 4: Nothing fails like success
The fourth lesson I have learnt is the importance of humility. There is a thin line of difference between confidence and arrogance. Confident people are always open to learn. A recent survey of executives in Europe showed that the single most important quality needed for leadership success was the willingness to learn from any situation. Arrogance on the other hand stops learning. It comes with a feeling that one knows all that needs to be known and has done all that needs to be done.

Lesson 5: There has to be a better way
Partly as a corollary to what I have just said, we must remember that no matter how well we do something there has to be a better way! Excellence is not a destination but a journey. Creativity and innovation sometimes need inspiration from other disciplines. It is probably not a chance that Einstein's interest in music was as much as his interest in Physics. Bertrand Russell was as much a mathematician as a philosopher. Excellence and creativity go hand in hand.

Lesson 6: Respond, not react
There is a world of difference between the two and in terms of success and failure. The difference is that the mind comes in between responding and reacting. When we respond, we evaluate with a calm mind and do whatever is most appropriate. We are in control of our actions. When we react, we are still doing what the other person wants us to do.

Lesson 7: Remain physically active
It is easy to take health for granted when you are young. I have found that exercise not only improves the quality of time but also reduces the time you need for sleep. The truth is that stress will only increase in a global world. You must have your own mechanism to deal with it.

Lesson 8: Never compromise on your core values
Mahatma Gandhiji often said that you must open the windows of your mind, but you must not be swept off your feet by the breeze. One must define what you stand for. This is not difficult. But values lie, not in the words used to describe them, as much as in the simple acts. And that is the hard part. Like someone said, "I could not hear what you said because what you did was coming out far too loud".

Lesson 9: Play to win
Playing to win brings out the best in us and in our teams. It brings out the desire to stretch, to achieve that which seems beyond our grasp. However, it is not about winning at any cost. It is not about winning every time. It is not about winning at the expense of others. It is about innovating all the time. It is a continuous endeavour to do better than last time.

Lesson 10: Give back to society
All of us have a collective social responsibility towards doing our bit to address them. Of all the challenges, the key to me is education. We have a paradoxical situation, where on the one hand we have jobs chasing scarce talent and on the other, rampant unemployment and poverty. The only way to bridge these two ends of the pole is by providing quality education that is accessible by all.

Can't Say "No" to People?

What are you afraid of if you say "No" to people? Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no:

"I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. Then they will get angry at me and I will feel like a bad person."

"I'm afraid of ending up with no friends. People will reject me if I say no."

"I'm afraid that my partner will get angry and withdraw his love."

However, when you are afraid to stand up for yourself and say "no" when saying "no" is what is in your highest good, then you might put walls around yourself to avoid having to say "No."

For example, Janice keeps herself 50 pounds overweight because it makes her feel safe from men approaching her for sex. A beautiful woman who was abused as a child, she never learned that it is her responsibility to take care of her own feelings and safety, rather than take responsibility for others' feelings. She is so afraid of hurting a man's feelings by saying "no," that she would rather attempt to protect herself by being overweight than have to face saying "no."

Ron is terrified of being taken advantage of. He believes that if he is open hearted, he will be vulnerable to being used and taken advantage of by others. Because he doesn't want to face his fears of rejection should he say "no" to his family, his friends, his co-workers, or even to a persistent salesperson, he keeps himself safe by being closed, hard, and aloof. He believes that by being unapproachable, he is safe from being taken advantage of. However, he then ends up experiencing the very rejection he is afraid of, because people are put off by his aloofness. Not only that, but keeping himself closed and hard cuts him off from connection and fun with others. All this can change for Ron if he learns to take responsibility for himself by saying "no" when this is what is in his highest good.

Gayle finds herself going along with want others want her to do, and saying the things that she thinks others want to hear, because she is so afraid of others' anger at her. But giving herself up feels awful to her, so after a while, she gets angry and shuts down as a way to protect herself from losing herself. She spends all this energy giving herself up, and then getting angry and shutting down, to avoid having to say "no."

As a child, did you experience the heartbreak of rejection or even of abuse if you said "no" to a parent, a sibling, a friend or relative? Did you learn that either going along with what someone wanted, having a temper tantrum, or shutting down and numbing out were ways to avoid the feeling of heartbreak at not being able to say no?

It is very painful for all of us when someone just wants what they want and doesn't care about what we want or what we feel is right for us. It is painful when others want to use us or take advantage of us. So you might be protecting yourself against the heartache of knowing that another doesn't care about you by giving in, getting angry, or shutting down.

But the irony of this is that when you try to avoid the heartache of feeling another's uncaring behavior, you are not caring about yourself. You are abandoning yourself when you give yourself up or close your heart to avoid feeling rejected. By avoiding others' rejection, you are rejecting yourself, which causes much anxiety and depression.

Moving into personal power and emotional freedom means being willing to take the risk of others' uncaring or rejecting behavior and learning to manage the heartache of this, rather than continue to abandon yourself.

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"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." Key #1 - Live in the present This is truly the only moment we have. Stay focused on what is happening here and now. Look for the joy and fullness in every moment rather than thinking about or worrying about what happened in the past or what might happen in the future. We waste so much energy worrying needlessly about what has happened rather than focusing on the joyfulness of the present moment. We drive ourselves crazy judging what we should have done and what we should do in the future. When you feel yourself going down that path recognize that your ego is trying to take you on a trip that will bring you nothing but heartache rather than joy. Stop and connect with your Higher Self and ask her/him to support you in living in the moment and enjoying what you are currently experiencing. Accept what comes to you totally and completely knowing that all that is occurring is an opportunity to learn and to grow spiritually. Don't struggle against what is occurring in your life, know that you have created all that you are experiencing, be at one with it and be in gratitude. Key #2 - Take time to be silent Meditate and connect with your Higher Self asking to quiet the internal dialogue. During this time of silence know that you are reconnecting with your source of pure awareness. Pay attention to your inner Self so you may be guided by intuition rather than your ego. Remember that your ego likes to make you wrong to make you right to make you wrong to make you right. It loves taking us down the unstable, fearful path. Our Higher Self wants us to feel safe and loved and to experience unlimited love, joy and peace. ey #3 - Relinquish your need for external approval Remember that all the answers are within us - not outside of ourselves. You alone are the judge of your worth and your goal is to discover and recognize the infinite worth within yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks. Remember that they are a mirror for you communicating back to you what you actually think about yourself. No one participates in your life unless you have invited them. There is great freedom in recognizing that all we experience we create. When you find yourself reacting with anger or opposition to any person or circumstance, realize that you are only struggling with yourself. Putting up resistance is the response of defenses created by old hurts. When you relinquish this anger, you will be healing yourself and cooperating with your Higher Self. Know that the world "out there" reflects your reality "in here." The people you react to most strongly, whether with love or hate, are projections of your inner world. What you most hate is what you most deny in yourself. What you most love is what you most wish for in yourself. The goal is total self-knowledge. When you achieve that, what you most want will automatically be there, and what you most dislike will disappear. Key #4 - Shed the heavy garment of judgment You will feel much lighter, more peaceful and more joyful. The first place to begin is to stop judging yourself. Be in love with yourself and know that you are perfect. When you judge, you cut off understanding and shut down the process of learning to love. In judging others, you reflect your lack of self-acceptance. Is there something that a friend, child, spouse or partner does that drives you nuts and you think is silly or stupid? Welcome to the club. When we judge people we are saying that they have faults and in doing so we are claiming that we have faults as well. What are faults anyway? Faults are what other people do, think, feel, or believe that are different from how we perceive things, so we pass judgment that they should think or act this way or that way. What we judge as faults from the other person's perspective are not viewed as faults at all, but just who they are. What can we do? Learn to accept others as being on their own path to growing, learning what they need to learn, when they need to learn it according to life's overall plan, and not your plan. We all act the way we do, think the way we think and feel the way we feel because it is right for us. Many of us think that if so and so would just think the way I think, or feel the way I feel about certain things, they would be much happier. It is not our job to judge what we think is best for someone else. What we can do is connect with our Higher Self and continue to assess what is best for ourselves. As we do that we change and all our experiences with others change for the better. Key #5 - Count your blessings We are sure you have heard this phrase many times. It may sound like a silly thing to do; but, we invite you to give it a try. You may be pleasantly surprised to see how many things you are grateful for. Choose a way that will work for you to record your blessings; make tick marks during the day every time you experience something you are grateful for and count them up at the end of the day or sit in meditation at the end of your day and be in the energy of total joy as you recapture all your blessings for that day. We are sure there are many other ways that you can 'count your blessings'. The decision and choice is yours. There are literally thousands of possible things to be grateful for during the course of your day. You just have to be willing to see them. Key #6 - Let go of old baggage Some of us have heavy overnight bags we are carrying and some of us have trunks. No matter the size, the weight of this baggage can be debilitating and prevent us from truly experiencing happiness. What baggage are you carrying? Is it something a friend did 20 years ago? Or something a sibling, colleague or boss did a week ago? Do you really want to continue to carry this emotional 'stuff' with you for the next 5, 10, 15.... years? This baggage is usually old hurts, resentments, anger or some kind of pain inflicted by another person. Our old baggage can also consist of old guilt - things we should have done or shouldn't have done. Why do we hold on to all these old feelings anyway? For many of us we just see it as part of life and part of our journey and for many of us it actually feels normal and natural. If you feel drained emotionally and can't understand why, sit and reflect on what old baggage you may be carrying. Are there things you are still holding on to that create needless stress? Take the time to journal experiences you have had that you want to let go of. Make a conscience decision in 2010 to lighten your load and carry only what you need for the present moment. Doing so will allow you to experience more and more moments of joy and happiness. Key #7 - Stay in gratitude Staying in a state of gratitude is one of the most effective things you can do to be happy. And, the wonderful thing is it's free and easy. Simply give thanks for something. It can be as simple as giving gratitude to your eyes for being able to read this article or to the email system that allowed you to access this article. Give gratitude to your home or to the hotel room you stayed in on your last business trip or vacation. Get in the habit of giving gratitude to all your experiences, even the ones we deem as 'bad'. Knowing that there are no 'bad' experiences, only opportunities for us to grow and get better. Give gratitude to the person who delivers your mail or to the people who pick up your trash. Give gratitude to your pet(s) that bring you great joy. Giving gratitude opens the dam that has been holding back the natural flow of love and joy. We recognize that there are more than seven keys to happiness and trust that this ezine will inspire you to think of other ways of bringing more happiness into your life. One key point to remember is that happiness comes from deep within. It is a practice in which you have to be actively involved in. Things may happen in your life that knock you down and take you off course. When this happens remember to tap into your Higher Self/Spirit and ask for guidance. To Your Happiness!